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Getting What You Want

Sunday, December 11th, 2011

To paraphrase Shakespeare:  What to choose and what not to choose, that is the question.

Followed, of course, by all manner of other questions:  What choices are actually within my power?  What if what I want is not within my power to obtain or achieve?  What if I make a mistake?  What if I don’t deserve it?  What if God has something else in mind for me?  How do I go about getting it?  What if I fail (stumble, look stupid, hurt someone else in the process, lose)?  What if I get it, and end up disappointed (again)?  Etc.

Choosing can be difficult for many reasons, starting with the need to know yourself pretty well and including the limits of the human imagination.  No matter how creative you are, it’s impossible to envision every outcome.  And it’s especially impossible to envision the best way for something to come about.

So here you sit, facing the questions of what to choose (or not choose), besieged by additional questions and limited by your imagination.  And held captive by your assessment of yourself.  Now what?

Well, you can wait for something to happen and hope it’s good.  You can fall back on old habits and old choices and make the best of it.  You can find ways to explain your immobility:  reality, the economy, your obligations, your fears, other people, ego, your lack of resources (money, education, talent, opportunity).  You can look for a sign.  You can experiment with the options you see.  You can go to work on becoming better acquainted with yourself.

You can learn to make miracles.

The Nature of the Miracle

Traditionally, miracles carry a religious connotation, occurring as a result of divine intervention.  You pray, and the gods respond in your favor – if they favor your request.  When I first began to explore the idea of miracles, I realized I held a core belief in the laws of the universe.  I believe natural laws govern all outcomes, and even the gods work within the laws.  I concluded if we can’t see how an outcome happens, we simply do not understand the laws.  (I’m even more convinced of that since I’ve been studying quantum physics.)

For most of my life, I’ve been observing patterns and then dissecting the patterns to discover the contributing factors.  One of the most powerful insights I’ve gained over the years is that any energy or entity “out there” wants our best good.  Completely.  In all things.  Without exception.  Cosmic Consciousness (or God, or The Source, or whatever you want to call it) wants us to be happy, healthy, wealthy, wise, successful, and abundant.

That entity wants us to know ourselves, to know love, to gain enlightenment, to access the full measure of our personal power, and to serve powerfully.  There are no trade-offs.  We don’t have to sacrifice something in order to receive something.  We don’t need to have abundance in order to be happy, or health in order to be wise, or love in order to serve, or service in order to know love.

Of course, if you believe in such trade-offs, they become true.  But what if they aren’t true?  What if you could believe in miracles without limitations?  What if you could believe in your own best good?  What if you could believe your best good was your birthright?  What if you could believe that just because you were born on this planet you were given the right to enjoy the full fruits of life?

I’m going to assume you do believe this, and you do want Your Best Good.

Who Knows What’s Best?

Let’s explore Best Good a bit more deeply.  First of all, recognize Your Best Good is best for you, and you are the only arbiter.  No one on this planet knows what’s best for you better than you do – although cosmic consciousness might.  Your parents don’t know, your teachers didn’t know, your boss doesn’t know, your neighbors don’t know, you minister doesn’t know, your therapist doesn’t know.  No one else knows.  Everyone else will see your best good through their own lenses, and their lenses will be tinted by such factors as their beliefs, their experiences, their values, their view of you, and what’s in it for them.

But, you may be saying, I don’t know what my best good is!  Yes, you do.  At least your soul knows.  Your mind has probably been listening to others for too many years to be able to sort what you know from what everyone else says.  However, your heart and your body have ways of communicating that knowledge to you, if you are willing to listen.

I envision the methodology for making miracles to have three parts.  Each part of the model is an action point and requires your full commitment .

First – Choose, and Choose Truly

First, the choice you make must a true for you – and you must be willing to be true to it.  If you make a choice that is not true for you, you will know it in one of two ways:  1) You won’t be able to hold the intention.  It will simply slip out of your mind and out of your life.  2)  You’ll start getting messages from your true self.  Those messages will begin with a nudge, a pinprick of discomfort, a slip-up somewhere:  you’ll come down with a cold, your car won’t start, you’ll lose a computer file, etc.  (This is not to say every slip-up is a message, but it pays to explore the possibility.)

If you pay attention to the first message and correct your course, you’ll soon be on your way to Your Best Good.  If you ignore the first message, the second will be stronger:  the flu, perhaps, or a rear-ender, or a crashed hard-drive.

If the second message slides past without acknowledgment, and you continue to pursue a choice that isn’t true for you, each successive message will be stronger still.  Pay attention to your pain, whatever form it takes.  It could be serving as a wake-up call, as a seer stone, as a magnifying glass, as a window to your soul, as a reflection of a past un-true choice, etc.

Choices in favor of Your Best Good will always result in less pain, less suffering, less struggle, fewer obstacles, a faster pace, and greater peace.

Second – Align With Your Choice

This section is tricky because it’s absolutely impossible to see the unification – the alignment – take place.  The only way you can know whether or not you’re aligned is to look at the result.  If what you have chosen isn’t happening, you’re not aligned with it.  You’re aligned with whatever is happening.

The mis-alignment can be in your thoughts, in your emotions, or in your actions.  Since actions are the most observable, it’s fairly easy to assess whether they’re in unity with your choice.  If you’ve chosen to be healthy, are you living healthily?  If you’ve chosen to write a book, are you actually writing?  If you’ve chosen to build a business, are you focused on service?

Conscious thought is also fairly easy to monitor, just tune into your mind and listen.  Are you critical or creative?  Are you distracted or determined?  Are you candid or calculating?

Sub-conscious thoughts, beliefs and emotions are more subtle, but they are not invisible.  They show up in such non-subtle ways as trials, tribulations, and pain.

During three recent coaching sessions I worked with people in physical pain.  One client had pain in her shoulder and numbness in her forearm, one had sciatica, and one had irritable bowel syndrome.  In each case, we looked for emotional conflicts by probing for the metaphorical message in the pain.  Once the client found the message, listened to it, and made a different choice, the pain eased up.  My client with shoulder and arm issues, found a belief that it was her responsibility to be the “good right arm” of others, and in accordance with that belief she was investing an excessive amount of energy in other people’s goals.  She decided to refocus her attention on her wholeness and best good.  My client with sciatica realized the pain began when she let herself be drawn into a situation she didn’t like and became angry with herself.  We revisited the incident and she chose calm instead of anger.  My client with the irritated bowel found he was taking responsibility for the emotions of others.  As soon as he identified this burden and acknowledged he had chosen to take it on, he was able to release it.

In each case, when my client recognized the inner conflict and released the part that wasn’t in alignment with Best Good, the pain subsided or disappeared.

Third, Receive the Miracle

Receiving may seem like a no-brainer.  If you choose truly, and if you unify your thoughts, actions and emotions, of course you’re willing to receive!

However, since the miracle will be Your Best Good, it might not look exactly like you envisioned when you first made your choice.  You’ve heard the old story of the guy sitting on his roof during a flood, praying for deliverance and turning away rescuers because he expected God to magically transport him away from danger.  You can’t know in advance what the miracle will look like, what form it will take, or how it will show up in your life.  Be willing to open your arms and embrace the miracle that comes.  Sometimes the miracle is the end result, and the only thing left for you is to celebrate.  Sometimes the miracle is an opportunity, and it’s up to you to stride through the door and proceed eagerly up the path.

Wanting Your Best Good is not a substitute for more specific choices.  If you want to write a best-selling novel, decide what that would feel like to you, and choose it.  Unify your thoughts, actions and emotions with that choice.  Then let go of any expectation, any concept of what that must look like.  Go to work; keep your emotions in partner or creator mode, and willingly receive Your Best Good.

The universe will then deliver the miracle.

(If you would like more information about personal life coaching, or would like a free introductory session, please contact me:  kathy@kathyjacobson.com)

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The “Secret” of Personal Power

Sunday, September 18th, 2011

Several years ago, a book (and DVD) called The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, became all the rage in New Thought circles and quickly spread across the country and throughout the world.

When I watched the DVD, I was struck by several things:  First, what it had to say wasn’t secret.  The great thinkers from every religious and philosophical tradition throughout the world have known it – and taught it.  Second, it focused too much on financial rewards.  (But as my wise friend Claire maintains, money is one of the easiest things to manifest, so we can learn a lot by starting there.)  Third, it skimmed too lightly across the essential aspects of emotion, gratitude and service.

My own thinking started turning in this direction in the mid-eighties.  I participated in a motivation/success program that focused on goal setting, and while much of it made sense to me, something was missing.  Eventually, I began to see personal creation is not just about willpower; the emotions play an extremely essential role.  What we decide with our heads has no power at all without the emotional support of what we believe in our hearts.  I can practice piano with the same diligence as a concert pianist, but as long as I believe I have no talent, I will remain a mere technician at the keyboard.  (I don’t know what would be possible if I believed I had talent.  I’m pretty sure I’d get a different result.)

Obedience to Law

Early on, I decided if we (as human beings) have the power to manifest or create what we want, that power has to obey natural laws.  We may not yet know the law (after all, gravity behaved the same way before Newton wrote his law as afterward, and relativity was relativity before Einstein put it into words.)  The universe works because natural laws conform to some kind of order.

After several years of certainty that we each create our own realities, I started seeing evidence that maybe we don’t.  Bad things happen to good people: babies are born with birth defects and get cancer; accidents and suicide bombers target the innocent and guilty alike; genocide and earthquakes kill thousands.

About 8 years ago, I had a pretty bad bike accident, broke my face, spent a night in ICU with a concussion, and still bear some of the scars.  I couldn’t see any way I was “attracting” such a personal disaster; and besides, I truly believed I was invulnerable.  (Isn’t belief 90% of creation?)  Then 9/11 happened.  I knew 3000 people didn’t have a death wish – and the many thousands of their families and friends did not all have some subconscious wish for pain and grief.

Affirmations

And what about the times when affirmations worked for me and when they didn’t?  For instance, at one time during my career as a romance novelist, I decided to put what I knew about manifestation to work.  Using the cover off a real book, I pasted the name of my book over the real title and my name over the real author’s name.  I tacked this visual representation of what I wanted above my computer.  I decided a reasonable time by which my book would be picked up by an editor.  I focused my attention on this outcome.  Months before that date arrived, my manuscript was rejected.  (So I gave up writing for life – for the fifth or sixth time.)

A couple of manuscripts later, for several months, I worked with the affirmation, “Every day in every way, the value of my work grows in the minds of others.”  On New Year’s eve, an editor called offering a contract on my book – when we all knew the publishing industry pretty much shuts down between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day.

So why did this effort at affirmation “work” when the previous one had not?  Was it pure coincidence, or did I somehow influence the result?

If that had been my only experience with manifestation, I’d probably attribute it to coincidence, but I’ve had dozens of such experiences – and so have my clients.  After years of observation and of processing and reprocessing, I’ve identified a significant  pattern.

The Power of Emotion

I believe the difference between my first unsuccessful attempt at “creating” the sale of  a manuscript and my second successful effort was my emotional state.

The first time, my heart wasn’t in it.  My head did all the right things: setting the goal, visualizing, affirming, focusing, willing it into existence.  But it was only an intellectual effort. I certainly wanted it, but my motives were money and validation.  Maybe I cared about that particular story, but probably not, since I can barely remember it.  Mostly I had been writing for years and wanted something to show for it.  I wanted to prove I could do it, to contribute to the family coffers, to get rich. Perhaps I even wanted to prove to myself the mind has power over matter.

At this point, it’s important to note that I never much liked romance novels, and I didn’t really believe in romance.

The second time, I left all those mind motivations behind.  I became much more interested in being true to myself, in being in tune with my talents and abilities.  I wanted to use those talents and abilities the best way I could, and I didn’t care whether it was through writing a novel or some other means.  I had become willing rather than willful.

When I look back at my bike accident, and the choices I was making at the time, I see a similar thread running through that event.  About three years earlier, I had finally, truly, given up writing – at least writing romance novels.  Not having a plan for what to do instead, I went back to school and earned a B.A in anthropology.  After graduation, still not having a plan for what to do next, I moved in with my parents to help care for my ailing father.  An opportunity for work came my way, and I took it – not as a life work, but as a good way to make a living and a good way to postpone choosing what I would do next.  The closest I can come to my contribution to that accident is that I wasn’t on purpose.  I began to speculate that if one isn’t living on purpose, one is living by accident.

Perhaps most of us live by accident most of the time.  Perhaps the key to “The Secret” is to start choosing.  And perhaps the key to choosing is to choose something that is true for us.  When I decided to become a writer, that was true for me. When I decided to become a writer of romance novels, that was not true for me.  When I (finally) decided not to write romance novels any more, that was true for me.  When I stopped writing entirely, that was not true for me.

Many of you have heard me say, “What is up to us.  How is up to the  universe.”  The more I’ve worked with this and observed it, the more I believe it’s true.  Most of us jump directly into the how at the first indication of a problem, but when we jump into the how before we know the what, we end up with the wrong what.  We put our efforts into fixing symptoms instead of problems, we focus on the vehicle rather than the goal.  I am coming to see that how is not about action, but about emotion, and therefore the how is as much up to us as the what.  First we must choose what we want, then we must choose the emotions that will facilitate it.  °

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Resistance

Sunday, April 10th, 2011

My model for both coaching and manifestation has three basic parts:  choose, align, receive.  Choose, bring your thoughts, emotions and actions into congruence, and that choice will become manifest.

Conversely, if what you’ve chosen does not become reality, you are either in conflict with your choice or your thoughts, actions and emotions are not congruent with each other.

This can be a hard conclusion to accept.  When we don’t get what we’re trying to manifest, it’s often more comforting to look outward for an explanation:  the economy, the weather, other people, traffic, lack of exercise or poor diet, birth order, astrological indicators, politics, personality type, parents, kids, etc.  And there will always be more than sufficient external reasons why the struggle continues.

Yet no matter how much energy we apply to resolving, or coping with, or conquering the external, the miracle will manifest only when we achieve internal congruence.  The primary challenge will always be dissolving the barriers and obstacles we generate for ourselves.

Of course, we do rarely create obstacles consciously.  You’ve probably never woken up in the morning wondering, “Okay, how can I impede my best good today?”  You’ve probably never gone to bed thinking, “Ah, how satisfying it’s been to keep myself stuck for yet another day.”

Consider that any emotion laden with negative or destructive energy is a form of resistance.  (Refer to Victim or Interpreter emotions on the Emotions List.)  Victim emotions are the most immobilizing.  They are never ambiguous; when in their thrall, you feel powerless.  Interpreter emotions are more elusive.  Sometimes they might nag and chafe and spur you to positive action; other times they lie buried deep within, strangling good intentions with silent tentacles.

Your results are always the best indicator such resistance persists–and there will always be an emotional component.  In the areas of your life where you feel contented and successful, your positive and creative emotions flourish and bear fruit.  But in the areas of your life where struggle persists, so do forms of buried resistance such as ambivalence, confusion, fears, false beliefs, past injuries, etc.

Always assess your results.  If you’re not manifesting what you want, look for the block within.  Perhaps you’re willing to recognize it and release it, yet have no idea where to start.  So let’s consider what you may be dealing with.

Beliefs: Beliefs about the way the world works begin in infancy.  To a baby, everything is fresh and unknown.  As the receptive new brain starts putting the pieces together, it draws conclusions simultaneously with gathering data.

One of the primary goals of a human being, even as a newborn, seems to be resolving the unknown.  We want to know what we don’t know, and we can create answers with very little information.  Once we decide the answer, we tend to adapt further data to comply with the model we’ve adopted.  We take the pieces that fit and say, “Ah, yes, I thought so.”  If a piece doesn’t fit, we’re likely to toss is out.  When we are comfortable with an answer, even if the answer doesn’t serve us, holding on to it is easier than challenging it.

Fears: Where beliefs arise from our efforts to resolve the unknown, fears tend to arise when we can’t.  When looking into the unknown, it’s much easier for most people to imagine the worst than to imagine the best.  Anything you can imagine has creative power.  Imagining the best comes from and/or evokes positive emotions; imagining the worst comes from and/or evokes negative emotions.  It’s always difficult to determine which comes first, the thought or the emotion, but since they become inextricable entwined it doesn’t really matter.  When the unknown looms, dread often follows.  Fear can’t settle in without our permission, except many of the fears that inhibit manifestations took root during the formative years when we didn’t know enough to be discerning.

For instance, a child who overhears parents arguing about money may inhale the fear of disaster radiated by the adults.  With no way to evaluate the validity of the parents’ feelings, and trusting them to know the way the world works, the child associates the emotions with the subject. The parent’s fear of the unknown influences the child’s belief about money.

The fears acquired by way of personal experience can be easier to identify because we often adopt them consciously.  We don’t know what the future will bring–the unknown emerges ahead of us like a great dark cavern – yet we want to be prepared for it.  If we knew the darkness was temporary and on the other side was a beautiful sun-lit garden, we would stride forward confidently.  But we don’t know.  Therefore, we assume it’s just good sense to be ready for any eventuality.  So we prepare for the worst.  If we could stay detached and focus on preparation, all would be fine.  If dread sets in, however, we tend to cringe away.

Injuries: No one gets through life unscathed–from bumps and bruises to dismemberment; from wounded pride to deep emotional betrayal, from minor colds to life-threatening illnesses, we are fragile creatures.  For most of us, the will to survive compels us to heal, to keep going, to transcend, and to prevent such assaults (even minor ones) from happening again.

We bring the past into the present by identifying the circumstances, analyzing relationships, looking for cause and effect, etc.  Once we think we have a clear picture, we put safeguards in place, and then we project the past into the future.  In the past, when A happened, B followed.  Since we don’t want B in the future, we will avoid A at all costs.

Conflicting inputs: If three people witness an event, chances are high they’ll provide three different versions of what happened.  However, when the three people are all in a group and discussing the event, they tend to influence each other to bring their details or observations into accord.  If you are one of the people involved, you may find yourself adapting your version to correspond more closely with the others.  And this may cause you to doubt your own experience.  Did you see what you thought you saw?

This happens all the time, with ideas as well as observations.  When you listen to others more than yourself, you will likely learn to mistrust your own intuition.  This tends to cause confusion,  ambivalence and insecurity.

Erroneous inputs: Information comes in all shades of accurate or false, especially in this era of the Internet.  Lies, assumptions and propaganda are often presented with the assurance of truth.  Closer to home, sometimes people we know and trust mislead us – perhaps casually, perhaps purposefully.  When wrong thinking is represented as truth it causes victimization and injury.  If loyalty to the other person is allowed to further confuse the facts, the injury of the lie deepens, and bitterness, insecurity, dejection, misery, etc. take root.

While understanding the above conditions can be a good way to dismantle them, it’s fully possible to simply dissolve the barriers they create.  Consider the following strategy.

Become the Observer: Getting out of your own story can be very challenging, but if the story itself is keeping you stuck, it’s essential to trade the old story for a new one.  Here are some suggestions:

  • Detach: Take three paces away from your life and watch it from a distance.  See yourself and the other people in your life as characters in a movie.  What do you see when on the outside looking in? Are the behaviors well-motivated and consistent?  Is the dialogue interesting or banal?  Do you want to cheer for yourself?  Can you see the emotions fueling your choices?  What would you advise yourself to do differently?
  • Dismiss judgment:  Everyone in your life is doing the best they can with what they’ve got.  We all operate with some combination of insufficient information, strong beliefs, doubts and fears, past hurts, mis-information, exhortations from others, and ambivalence.  To balance the scale, we all have talents, intelligence, inner strengths, proven abilities, and past successes.  Accept your assets without pride, your weaknesses without judgment, and other people with compassion.
  • Laugh at your resistance:  All forms of resistance gain in strength and tenacity when we take them seriously.  Certainly, you came by them naturally and honestly and you’ve probably done an excellent job learning to accommodate them.  You can still relax and laugh them away.
  • Ignore them:  The less attention you give to impeding beliefs, habitual fears, past injuries, or conflicting inputs the less strength they have.  Refuse to give them a presence in your thoughts.  The more you think about them, the more your emotional attachment swells in response; your emotions give them energy, and when you give them energy, you give them power.  Take away the energy by choosing different thoughts.  Your emotions will follow, and different emotions will create different results.

Choose what you do want: As the observer, you gain an ability to choose, an ability unavailable to you while in judgment.  Think of judgment as a mud hole, keeping you stuck.  When you become the observer, you gain solid ground.  With a solid base under your feel, you can explore possibilities, and you can launch yourself in any direction you choose.

Choosing is an amazingly powerful tool.  If you don’t want illness, choose health.  If you don’t want poverty, choose prosperity.  If you don’t want conflict, choose peace.  If you don’t want confusion, choose wisdom.  Once you have chosen, decide the type of energy that will help bring it into your life, and embrace that energy.  Adopt it.  Make it yours.  Evoke it and live it.

Refuse what you don’t want: Remove what you don’t want from your slate of possibilities.  This isn’t about denying the current situation, or ignoring indisputable facts, or punishing the messenger.  Acknowledge what is, because today it is.

Tomorrow, however, can be different.  What if you decided the old belief could stay in the past?  What if you decided to not let fear create the future?  What if you ignored everyone else’s agitation?  What if you could believe that what you want wants you?  What if what you don’t want simply drops off your radar screen?  Change your mind; change your heart; change your reality.

Sometimes the barrier to what you want can be as simple as an unwillingness to receive.  Of course, this takes us back to the beginning, to the original intention.  If you retain an unwillingness to receive, it’s not a true intention.  Perhaps it’s not true for you, perhaps you believe you should want it, perhaps you’re not willing to release your resistance.  Whatever the reasons, you won’t get what you’re not ready to receive.

If you are willing, open your heart, your mind and your life and invite what you want to come on in.  (If what you want doesn’t accept the invitation readily, you’ve probably got some lingering resistance.  Look for any embedded Victim or Interpreter emotion, and continue working with the above strategies.)

Use a powerful welcoming emotion such as enthusiasm, eagerness or compassion.  Let the emotion you choose well up within you until you can feel the energy humming.  Using that emotion¸ bring what you want into you life with your imagination, and make a place for it.

For instance, if you want peace, and you’ve decided to create it with compassion, infuse compassion into your daily activities and overlay each activity with peace.  View all the people in your life with compassion and imagine them smiling and laughing instead of growling and complaining.  Apply compassion to yourself and imagine harmony with yourself, your tools, your efforts.  Extend compassion to your challenges and let peace reign over the situation.  Project compassion into the future and acknowledge the benefits that will spread out from you to others as a result of receiving peace into your own life.

And finally, be grateful in advance.  Give thanks for what you want as if it were already here, already yours.  Count the blessing that make it possible:  your talents, your intentions, your willingness, the partners and helpers who will appear and ease your way, etc.

And one last, final thing.  Use this phrase often:  “I release all resistance.”  Say it out loud and feel what happens to your body.  Review it regularly and see what happens with your manifestation.

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Proceed With Courage

Sunday, March 6th, 2011

The alignment aspect of making miracles is often the most challenging – especially in those areas of our lives where we experience the most struggle.

An often-overlooked way to bring your thoughts and your actions into alignment with your emotions is through courage. And then, courage grows as the result of such alignment. As with many of the power principles, the way is the result and the result is the way.

The following five techniques will help you gain courage, use courage, and accept courage as the inevitable result.

1. Listen to your intuition

Your inner voice is the voice of your soul – that inner essence of you that transcends the physical and is one with the universe. Your inner voice will always be truer for you than the voices of anyone else. However, learning to trust your intuition over the advice, beliefs, agendas, opinions, habits and experiences of others may take practice.

Begin by recognizing that everyone else speaks through their own emotional filter. Consider that your emotional filter began forming when you were an infant (perhaps before you emerged from the womb), when you experienced (or didn’t) your mother’s love. Since infancy, you have been interpreting what goes on around you and assembling your view of yourself, your life and the way the world works.

From these first beginnings your emotional filter has evolved, fed by emotion, attitude, experience, in-coming information, the filters of others, your education, and assorted other inputs. Everyone accumulates an individual perspective by way of this emotional radiation, some of it true, some of it not. Generally speaking, this makes the voices of others no more reliable than your own.

Your true inner voice, however, can sidestep your emotional filter, and it’s the only voice with that power. Here are some techniques to help you hear it and trust it.

  • Turn down the volume. The world itself generates so much noise it can become nothing but static. You may need to turn off such distractions as the TV, radio, or stereo. You may need to shut your doors and windows against the external noises of your environment. You may need to limit the number of people whose opinions influence you.
  • Use the mute button. Spend some time every day in silence. This may mean devotional silence such as prayer or meditation. It may mean some kind of quiet occupation, such as reading or sewing. It may mean getting out into the silence of nature. Silence helps you gain the calm of the Observer.
  • Calm your own “monkey mind” by releasing any Victim or Interpreter emotions. Should guilt, anger or disappointment start yammering at you over past events, extend compassion to yourself or others and come back to the present. Should fear, obsession or anxiety start eating at you about the future, detach from outcome, move into trust, and come back to the present.  Remember, your thoughts and emotions are yours by choice.
  • Trust your infinite partner. Your inner voice is in direct communication with the wisdom of the universe. That wisdom is available to you at any time just for the asking. Ask and you shall receive.

As with most things, the more you listen, the more you’ll hear. As you learn to rely on your intuition, you will discover how reliable it is. When you recognize you receive reliable wisdom, it’s easier to bring your thoughts, actions and emotions into alignment.

2. Be Open

By now you know the basic formula for manifestation:  set an intention, align with that intention, receive the results. I’ve been approaching the middle step, alignment, as a task, as the inner work. Now let’s look as alignment as a gift, as a miracle.

To be open to alignment requires some effort on your part. You must dismantle your barriers, and chances are you’ve had those barriers in place a long time and have grown comfortable with them. They protect you from anything on the other side of them, even if at the same time they’re preventing you from reaching what you really want.

Opening your gates takes courage. Moving beyond your walls takes courage. Striding into the unknown takes courage. A huge part of being open is being out in the open. Exposed. Vulnerable perhaps, but if you’re hiding behind your barriers, how can the miracle find you?

What does it take to have the courage of openness?

  • Love for yourself and your fellow human beings.
  • A commitment to purpose, to what you have to learn and to what you have to give.
  • Confidence that what you want wants you.
  • Happiness.

When you adopt this courage and become open, you are more likely to experience the miracle of alignment. Alignment then produces all other miracles. When you are aligned and unconflicted, when you are congruent and connected, only best good can occur.

3. Exercise Your Emotions

Emotions are creative energy, and with every emotion you experience you create something. In most instances, the only evidence of this creation is the result:  fear creates danger, love creates healing, anger creates malignancy, etc. Because every emotion creates something, you can identify the emotions you’re experiencing by the results they produce:  if you have safety, you know peace; if you have friends and family, you exude love; if you live in abundance, you radiate openness and generosity.

Most people express their emotions and receive the result without making a connection between the two. Their emotions roil out of them willy-nilly, creating results as if by accident. Because accidents occur within whatever medium is available, it’s easy to explain the accident as the result of physical circumstances. The cause and effect can seem so perfectly logical the emotional contribution is often overlooked or ignored.

If this has been your pattern, you can break free of it by becoming conscious of your emotional energy and using it purposefully and intentionally.

Remember, you can purposefully use your emotions to create anything you want through mindfulness, intention and practice:

  • Become aware of the cause-and-effect nature of emotions. Victim emotions result in misery; Interpreter emotions result in struggle; Observer emotions result in calm; Partner emotions result in cooperation; and Creator emotions result in oneness.
  • Know what you want. The more knowledgeable and intentional you are about what you want, the more you can manifest that specific result.
  • Practice. Apply the appropriate emotion to the specific situation.

Have the courage to use your emotions to create intentionally. Be confident enough to choose what you want. Be brave enough to acknowledge what you feel. Be fearless enough to choose the emotions that will create the life you want.

4. Allow Best Good

How much courage does it take to envision best good?  A lot. Usually because most people restrict best good. Some common restrictions are:

  • Best good is bigger than most people can imagine, so they don’t try.
  • Most people think of best good in terms of “reward,” something that must be deserved in order to be received.
  • Many people want to withhold best good from others, and thus withhold it from themselves.
  • Some people are afraid of best good.

There are two restrictions on best good. The first is existing circumstances. Given existing circumstances, best good is the best possible outcome. For instance, in winter, best possible good is probably not a sudden swing into summer. The second is your best good won’t diminish the good of the whole. For instance, suddenly summer would have worldwide consequences in terms of food production, local consequences in terms of expectations and preparedness, and individual consequences on people’s body rhythms. No matter how much you might want summer, visualize summer, affirm summer and bless summer, it would be pretty hard to conceive of it as a general best good.

On the personal level, best good is never restricted, never limited by immediate and conditional circumstances. (Such as illness, poverty, loneliness, unemployment, etc.) Best good wants to soar, to expand, to be free. Change limiting emotions to expansive ones, and you get an expansive result. Have the courage to visualize and radiate best good, and miracles can happen.

Expansiveness, yes; excess, no. Excess tends to encourage negative behaviors such as greed, avarice, jealousy, intoxication, and control, and thus creates more harm than good.

Best good often looks different than you’d expect, mostly due to limitations of the imagination. Have the courage to accept best good if it shows up a form surprises you. Gracefully and gratefully welcome the unexpected.

5. Energize Your Intention

Give your intention a good, solid booster shot of happiness. Happiness enjoys, delights in, welcomes, enthuses, laughs with and blesses. Happiness doesn’t hold back. Happiness is perhaps the most amazingly huge, expansive power in the universe. Only love has as much constructive power. (Hate and anger are equally strong, but they destroy.)  Where love is the greatest healing power, happiness is the greatest creative power. Creative in terms of originating, building, generating, establishing, expanding, etc. While all emotions create a result, happiness is creation itself.

When you infuse an intention with happiness, you cannot get any result other than best good. Happiness and best good go together. Where you have happiness you have best good, and where you have best good you’ll find happiness. Happiness is not just an end, it’s the means to an end. Employ it as your means to your intention. Use it to energize what you want. The happier you are as you envision your best good, the faster your best good will come to you. A few ways to empower your intention with happiness include:

  • Open your senses and enjoy what you experience through them.
  • Stay present. Refuse to stew over the past or agonize over the future.
  • Detach from expectation; stay focused on best good.
  • Smile, play, laugh, celebrate.
  • Enjoy every aspect of the process, even the hard parts.

Happiness has the power to join you and your intention into a congruent whole. If you withhold happiness in any measure, you cannot integrate that aspect into the whole, and best good becomes almost good, or next-best good.

Happiness is not just a good idea, it’s an essential key.

Application

I’ve numbered these techniques solely for the sake of presentation. They are not a step-function or a hierarchy. Use them as appropriate to energize your courage. Internalize them to follow your path boldly. Master them to access ever expanding layers of your personal power.

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Mindfulness

Sunday, February 20th, 2011

Consider the ways in which thoughts, actions and emotions are the three powerful and creative energies of your life.

You know all about actions, those physical things you do with your body.  You know thoughts motivate and move you in certain directions.  And you experience every day the power your emotions have on your moods, your relationships and the state of your health.  When you bring these three forces – actions, thoughts, and emotions – into one congruent whole, when you live intentionally, you open the way for miracles.

These three forces always interact to create a result.  They must.  There is no alternative.

When you are aware and focused, these aspects of yourself create what you want and bring it into existence.

However, even when you are unaware, incongruent, and living by accident, these three energies interact to create a result.  They are your life forces, and they strive to satisfy your desires.  The trouble is, if you think you want one thing, yearn emotionally for something else, and act in favor of something else again, these forces become conflicted and bring turmoil to your life.  For instance, if you are in a difficult, combative relationship with someone (or something), at some level you have injected combative energy into that relationship.

On the other hand, in the smooth, easy, cooperative relationships of your life, your thoughts, actions and emotions are unified with love, generosity, confidence, and oneness – and that’s what you receive.

Putting in; Getting out

What you put in creates what comes out. If you want to know what you’re putting in, look at what’s coming out.

Assume there is an area or two of your life in which you’d like to get a different result.  You know you need to put something else in, but you’re not sure what you need to change.

Sometimes it helps to come at this challenge from a different angle, so consider using different words:

Action   =   Doing

Thoughts   =   Having

Emotions   =   Being

In your experience, which comes first?  Do you do, in order to have, in order to be?

That’s the typical order for most people.  For instance:

  • You want a loving, intimate relationship.  Obviously, you’ve got to do – meet people, go on dates, get to know someone, make peace with the person you’re with.  Then you can have – a boy friend/girl friend/significant other.  And then you can be in a satisfying relationship.
  • You want wealth.  You can easily come up with a list of things to do – get the right degree, start investing, initiate a savings plan, market more effectively, etc.  These actions enable you to have – credentials, the right job, something to start investing with, a larger base.  Then you can be rich.
  • You want to be at the top of your game.  You review the actions of those who have gone before – study, practice, learn, network, perform, create a business plan.  Through hard work you can have – skills, finesse, contacts, a product.  And then you will be among the best.

This is the obvious, common sense, Western-culture way to approach anything you want to achieve.

For Better Results

The miracle way works in the opposite, counter-intuitive direction.

To make miracles, be first, then have, and leave doing for last.  For this radical approach to make sense, we have to redefine the terms just a bit.

Doing is about taking action; it’s also about partnering – especially with the universe.  Of course you must focus, learn, practice, implement, etc.  That’s your part.  To accept the universe as your partner, you must also welcome, attract, be willing, agree, appreciate, honor, etc.

Because we’re associating having with thoughts, let’s look at it as having the mental resources you want to possess:  knowledge, abilities, skills, qualities of character, attitudes, beliefs, insights, wisdom, etc. (Basically, what you might be able to take with you when you die.)

Being refers to being in your personal power, and that’s determined by your emotional state.  How you feel is how you are.  Whatever your emotional state, that emotion resonates throughout your entire being, and then it vibrates outward.  These outward vibrations affect everyone and everything they touch.  They are the power you generate, just as the sun generates the power of heat and light.

Now let’s put this in the context of real life, using the above examples.

If you want a loving, intimate relationship.

  • Identify what kind of person do you want to be in this relationship – loving, generous, kind, happy, considerate, neat,  adventurous.  (It might help to look at what kind of person you were in past relationships and review how that worked for you.)
  • What you want to have may include:  attitudes, such as patience, good sense of humor, confidence, compassion; skills and abilities, such as communication, tenderness, better organization, scuba-diving; beliefs, such as that you are loving and lovable?
  • Lastly, what can you do to further the above?  Practice, put yourself out there, stop arguing, release fear, go dancing, buy gear. laugh more, believe it’s possible?  Receive?  Welcome?

If you want wealth/abundance.  Ask yourself the same questions:

  • Determine the kind of person you want to be: confident, generous, willing, open, aggressive, optimistic?
  • What you want to have may include:  attitudes, such as an expansive outlook, honesty, generosity, attentiveness; skills, such as financial knowledge, market acumen, better proficiency in your field; and what you need to believe, such as money is your friend, or money is easy, or you are aligned with prosperity.
  • Finally, what can you do to further the above?  Study, practice, bless your work, network?  Receive?  Appreciate?  Attract?

If you want to be at the top of your game.

  • What kind of person will you have to be? Confident, respectful, determined, productive, willing, optimistic, humble?
  • What attitudes will it serve you to have? Serenity, tenacity, respect, excellence?  Wisdom?  What skills will you have to acquire?  Subject knowledge, proficiency, insight?  What belief will serve you?  That your abilities are a divine gift?
  • What can you do to further the above?  Study, practice, perform, write, invite challenges, give it away?  Welcome?  Nurture?

Put it on Paper

Take a piece of paper, and write your intention statement across the top. (See Living With Intention) Take a minute to feel that intention.  Imagine it as real, as a done deal, as manifested in your life.

Draw a grid with three columns and three rows below your intention statement.  Label the columns Be, Have, Do.  Label the Rows Today, This Week, This Month.  Because you’re probably in the habit of thinking of what to do first, I suggest you start with the far right column – Do – and work your way left.

The first row of the worksheet is labeled Today.  In the Do square at the far right, identify what you can to today to further your intention.

An intention I’m working on currently is:  With enthusiasm and gratitude I welcome and receive money in a steady, abundant flow.  I love money and it loves me.

I filled in the Do-Today square of my grid with:

  • Blog
  • Welcome 3 new clients.
  • Personally invite people into my manifestation workshop
  • Refuse my habitual distractions

In the Have-Today square, I wrote:

  • Peace
  • Wisdom
  • Love
  • Enthusiasm
  • Money
  • Clients
  • Greater sense of purpose

In the Be-Today square, I’ve identified:

  • Serene
  • Confident
  • Attentive
  • Spiritually magnetic
  • Willing
  • Enthusiastic
  • Happy

Clearly, blogging is a physical function – a do.  My part is to sit at my computer, think, compose, post.  I partner with the universe by inviting wisdom and insight. (Also by inviting clients and students.)

In order to welcome, invite, attract, and serve, I must have peace. Having peace about money right now is a bit challenging because my bank account is pretty slim, but just performing this exercise brought a surprising level of serenity.  Much of having, as I wrote last week, is just getting out of your own way.

Which brings me to being.  Being serene helps me have peace.  Being willing and receptive opens the door so abundance can come into my life.  Being attentive helps me have focus, so I can do the next thing that comes up for me to do – receive.

In coming up with your program, I advise starting at the right and working left.  When you want to implement your program, I encourage you to start at the left and work right.  Remember, the only time frame for implementation is today.

Now consider the coming week.  When you expand your time horizon just that much, what changes?  Again, think from right to left; implement from left to right.

Here’s my program for the week:

Be:

  • Confident
  • Serene
  • Attentive
  • Generous
  • Conscientious
  • Happy

Have:

  • Commitment
  • Consistency
  • Focus
  • Love
  • Enthusiasm
  • Wisdom
  • Confidence
  • Money

Do:

  • Post blog
  • Welcome 6 new clients
  • Receive students in the new manifestation workshops.
  • Attract enough money to pay my rent.

When I’m looking at seven days rather than one, I can come up with more things to do. To get it all done, I’m going to consciously have more going on within me.  Which means I have to be at a higher level of my personal power.

Now, project forward for one month.  What can you do during the next thirty days to further your intention?  In order to accomplish all that, what qualities will you choose to have (adopt, improve, be open to, focus on)?  And what emotions (mode of power) will you generate, operate from, be?

Here is my plan for the coming month:

Be:

  • Serene
  • Happy
  • Enthusiastic
  • Generous
  • Sure
  • Open
  • One
  • Productive

Have:

  • Wisdom
  • Receptiveness
  • Willingness
  • Creativity
  • Empathy
  • Focus
  • Abundance

Do:

  • Organize thinking for next book.
  • Work with 15 clients per week.
  • Post weekly blogs.
  • Open the floodgates of abundance.

Once you’ve aligned your actions, thoughts, and emotions on paper, begin by letting the emotions expand within you, then focus your thoughts, and finally, act accordingly.

In past blogs I’ve made the point that what is up to you, while how is up to the universe.  Unifying your life forces, however, is as aspect of how that belongs to you.  Only you can choose how you will feel, how you will think, and how you will act.  Only you can decide who you will be, what you will have, and what you will do.

(Note: I wrote and published this article in 2009.  I am happy to report my prosperity intention is smoothly and delightfully coming to fruition.)

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Get Out of Your Own Way

Sunday, February 13th, 2011

I call one of the manifestation steps “Purify,” or the but exercise. You may remember the exercise I suggested in Becoming Congruent. You write your intention statement across the top of a sheet of paper, use the conjunction but to form a compound sentence, then complete the sentence with whatever comes up when you say but.

For instance, if you wanted to manifest a better relationship with someone – partner, spouse, child, boss, etc. – you might compose an intention statement like this:  “With love and tranquility, I welcome a loving, healthy relationship with (insert name).”  You would then say but and let your doubts and frustrations come up one after the other. For example, your list might look something like this:

but . . .

. . . she’s impossible.

. . . we hardly talk any more.

. . . we’ve said things to each other neither of us can take back or forget.

. . . her way of doing things drives me nuts.

. . . I’m not sure we respect each other any more.

. . . she’s unwilling to change.

. . . we’ve been to counseling and we  still have the same problems.

. . . I’m willing to meet her half way but she has to take the first step.

By letting your fears and uncertainties flow to the surface, you are now able to address them. In my article titled Pacify Your Obstacles, I suggested techniques for healing the past, living in the present, and visualizing the future you want to create. [If you’ve tried one or more of these techniques, I invite you to share your experiences.]  Each of these techniques focuses on emotions and explores their creative power. As I’ve often written, emotions are the key to all manifestation.

­Recognize the Source

Today I’d like to return to the concept of obstacles and address those that continue to block you.

Last summer I drove from Colorado to Seattle. During my three days on the road, I had a lot of hours with myself to think and do inner work – which is one of the reasons I like road trips. During the drive home, while working on one of my intentions, I realized the most important thing I could do for myself is get out of my own way.

In order to do that, I had to review the ways I erect barriers for myself. Then I considered ways I’ve seen clients put up roadblocks, and I came up with quite a list. Perhaps you’re like me and have long experience with one or more of the following:

  • Holding expectations.
  • Setting conditions.
  • Saying “no,” or “not yet” or “soon.”
  • Clinging to what you know.
  • Believing how is up to you.
  • Giving power to past experiences.
  • Letting others influence us with their beliefs and opinions.
  • Not trusting your own power.

When you review your list of buts you may find them to be examples of the above barriers. When you review your list of barriers you will probably discover your own unique pattern of ways you get in your own way. Following are some  strategies for stepping aside and allowing best good to manifest.

Become the Observer

Recognize the driving force behind every obstacle will be a Victim or Interpreter emotion. (Refer to the Emotions List.) Such emotions always create misery and struggle. When you live with these emotions you are effectively creating your own obstacle course. By releasing or discarding the emotions you clear the way for something else. Fear exists only if you create it, or hold onto it, or stake it like a dragon in the path ahead of you. You can discard such emotions by saying, “I’m finished with that belief, that state of being.”  Choose an emotion from Observer mode and adopt it instead.

Give up Expectations and Conditions

Expectations and conditions usually play off each other.

You have an idea of how things should be, and when you picture that as the only acceptable outcome you create an expectation . Then, expecting a certain outcome, you attach a list of conditions that must be met in order for that outcome to be acceptable.

For instance, if your boss is impossible, look at what you want her to be instead. Gentle?   Efficient?  Prompt?  Prepared?  Nice?  Visionary?  A better communicator?  Less chatty?  More like you?  Less like you?  Almost always, when we create expectations, the picture includes aspects that suit us, and we rarely consider what suits the other person or is realistic to the situation.

So we establish the conditions that will bring the person or situation into conformity with our expectations. For instance, what conditions must be met before you consider your boss to be reasonable?  Does she have to return messages in a more timely manner?  Does she have to stop criticizing you when others are present?  Does she have to acknowledge your work more publicly?  Does she have to stop taking long lunch breaks?  Does she have to wear her hair differently?  Does she have to take elocution lessons?  Generally when one person has complaints about another person, the complaints are not the problem. The problem lies in the expectations, and until acceptance replaces judgment, the conditions will keep morphing and become increasingly un-meetable.

Perhaps you think a better relationship with your boss means she’ll be nicer and more respectful of you. Well, yes, that would be good. Perhaps you think the way to make that happen is to confront her, or to have someone else intervene in your behalf, or to go to HR. Those are all how solutions, and when you focus on how (your conditions), you’ll lose track of what (your intention). What if your best possible relationship with her is a restructuring of the organization?  Or a promotion for you?  Or maybe that you get another job?  Or one of a hundred other possibilities?  You can’t know how the better relationship will come about. Be willing to trust best good, and get out of the way.

Take away the judgment, become the observer, give the other person the benefit of the doubt, and the relationship will change. (This is also true of non-human conflicts and relationships.)

Release Past History

If what has been in the past has power in the present or future, you have bestowed that power.

Perhaps you want to be healthy, but you’ve been ill in the past. Your past experience establishes a pattern, and you project that pattern into the future. Try revising your history to one of health. Imagine yourself as a healthy child, a robust teenager, a vigorous adult. Visualize it, feel it, and notice how your body responds.

Perhaps you want to be wealthy, but you have a history of scarcity. Because money has always been in short supply, you have established a belief about your relationship with money that now sits in front of you like a concrete wall. To dismantle the wall, rewrite your history. Adopt a past of abundance, of wealth, with a steady flow of money gushing through your life. Imagine yourself financially secure, handling your debts, never lacking. Let the sense of abundance expand within you. When you change your belief, you change your reality.

To change your history, stop saying, “I always ____.”  Instead, say, “I used to _____, but now I ______.”  “Now I’m healthy.”  “Now I have plenty.”  “Now I love my work.”  “Now I’m worthy of love.”  “Now I’m happy.”

Again, emotion is the key. Adopt the emotions of yes instead of no, and see what happens.

Stop Waiting

The weather won’t be better next year. You won’t be younger. The kids won’t be less trouble. You won’t be more prepared. The economy won’t be sufficiently different. If you want to, you can think of a myriad reasons to delay.

Simply say “yes.”  When it comes to taking on something new, you will always be naïve. No one knows what something will be like until they’ve experienced it first hand. (Until you’ve had a baby you can’t know what it’s like. Sure, you can read the books and buy the furniture and change your schedule, but then the baby arrives and you discover a thousand things you never imagined.)

Perhaps you’ve decided to stop waiting for the right time, the right conditions. You’ve taken the first step and set an intention. Good for you!

How are you doing with aligning your emotions, thoughts, and actions?  Or are you waiting until you’re not so scared?  Are you hoping the obstacles will go away by themselves?  Are you waiting for the other person to change?  Are you putting all your energy into doing the right things?

Most people start by taking action. They think they must do something in order to have something in order to be something. Then if what they do doesn’t produce the desired result, they conclude they can’t, or that it just wasn’t meant to be.

Try moving in the other direction. Start with your emotions. Be the happiness you want, the love you want, the abundance you want, the wholeness you want. Then redirect your thoughts. Have the positive attitude, the better frame of mind, the creative energy, the forward momentum. Finally, adopt new habits of doing things. Cooperate rather than challenge. Appreciate rather than envy. Recognize instead of criticize. Trust rather than resent.

By being, you have, and by having, you will do.

Moving Forward

Barriers can, of course, come from other sources besides yourself. These suggestions specifically address those you established and/or have all allowed to remain. When you change your approach and start removing those obstacles, it’s very likely the ones you didn’t erect will lose their obstructive power.

And it’s always good to remember not all barriers need to be removed. Sometimes you can simply step over them and be on your way. You probably have more power to engineer your path and your future than you know.

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Becoming Congruent

Sunday, February 6th, 2011

As sentient beings, we approach everything from three directions at once.  We view them through our emotions, we think about them, and we act – not necessarily in that order.

Our best results come when these three tactics work in harmony with each other, when we’re congruent.  In fact, you can recognize the areas of your life where you are congruent by looking at your results.  If you’re getting what you want, you’re in alignment.  If you’re not getting what you want, one of these forces doesn’t mesh with the other two.

Alignment begins by making sure what you want is true for you and that you can be true to it.  Your congruence with what you want is the first step of alignment, but sometimes being true to what you want can be challenging.  Even when it feels true and you know it comes from your heart, you’re beset by doubts or objections or experiences that deny the possibility of attainment.  Then it’s time to search out your impediments and remove them from your path.

Identify the Impurities

For a good way to I way to identify your obstacles and objections here’s something I call The “But” Exercise.

Write your intention at the top of a piece of paper.  For instance,

With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance.

Then turn your statement into a compound sentence with the word but, and finish with whatever fear, belief, or doubt comes up.  Since you probably have more than one fear or doubt, repeat this exercise at least 10 different ways.

If you’ve been working with an intention statement on a daily basis, it’s very likely some objections have been intruding.  This is your chance to commit them to paper:

With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance,

  • But I’m stuck in a job that barely pays the bills.
  • But every time I try to feel abundance my stomach tightens up.
  • But the economy’s so bad, where would any new money come from.
  • But I’m farther in the hole than I’ve ever been before.
  • But money is the root of all evil.
  • But the rich only get that way on the backs of the poor.
  • But I have to make sure everyone else is okay first.

If you discover more than ten obstacles, keep going.  Perhaps you know your strongest doubt already, so it comes up first.  Continue anyway just to probe for anything else.  If you’re not sure what’s stopping you, this is a good way to release your subconscious.  Maybe you’ve got such an array of doubts you could find twenty without batting an eye.  However it is for you, this is the first step toward dissolving your objections and becoming completely congruent with your intention.

This exercise may take some time.  You may need to come back to it a couple of times.  Stay open and receptive.  You may discover some old beliefs embedded in your subconscious.  You may be able to articulate a persistent fear.  You may be confronted by an attitude or opinion that surprises you.  Write them all down.  If you resist your resistance, you give your obstacles permission to block you.

Now, with your list in hand, read through the buts and select the one you perceive to be the strongest.  Which one do you believe hinders you the most?

Dissolve the Obstacles

And now, dissolve the obstruction.  For clarity’s sake, I’m going to number the “steps,” although in practice they often overlap.

1.  Write your complete, compound statement on a fresh piece of paper (your original intention and the but you’ve decided to dissolve).

With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance, but the rich only get that way on the backs of the poor.

2.  Examine your statement for implications and connotations and take note of what you find.  There’s quite a lot embedded in this example, including disdain for the rich (and a reluctance to become one of them), fear of becoming manipulative and exploitive, and identification with the poor.  Your own statement may be equally loaded.

3.      Consider what you would like to believe instead.  Perhaps you already consciously accept something else, even while your subconscious holds onto an attitude or belief that clearly doesn’t serve you.  You might find it helpful to think of neutralizing the old belief.

  • I can be rich and loving at the same time.
  • Some of the richest people in the world are also the most generous.
  • Money is merely a form of energy, and all energy can be used for either good or bad.
  • Creative endeavors produce as much wealth (perhaps more) than exploitive endeavors.
  • While exploitation exaggerates the difference between rich and poor, cooperation benefits everyone.

4.      Work with your list to come up with a statement of belief that strongly replaces the old one:

I cooperate with and empower others in every way, and we all prosper.

5.      Envision this as true.  Feel it as true.  Let it expand within you until you can observe your supportive and prosperous relationships with everyone.  What emotions come up for you?  What emotions do you think would most actively create this?  Love?  Delight?  Enjoyment?  Gratitude?  Serenity?  Generosity?

Remember, all emotions are creative.  You create according to the emotions you experience and generate.  Whereas Victim emotions create pain and suffering and Interpreter emotions create struggle, Observer emotions create calm, Partner emotions create opportunity and Creator emotions connect with your best good.

If some latent Victim emotion continues to reside within you, no matter how illogical or convoluted, that emotion retains the power to block what you want.  However, it’s impossible for any Victim emotion to reside in the same space as any Creator emotion.  You can neutralize fear, hate, anger, jealousy, etc. with love, kindness, peace, joy, etc.  Always.

To eradicate Victim or Interpreter obstacles, identify an emotion one step up the chart and choose to feel it instead.  Then identify an emotions one step up from that and adopt that one.  Keep going until you can access one of the Partner or Creator emotions.  Then incorporate one or more of those emotions into this new statement.

I lovingly cooperate with others and generously empower them, and we all prosper.


6.    Now replace your original but with and to form a new compound statement.

With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance, and I lovingly cooperate with others and generously empower them, and we all prosper.

Align

Your new compound sentence may sound a bit cumbersome.  When you recognize the parts of your statement and their importance, you can abridge the statement while retaining the power of it.  Your statement encompasses the following:

1.    What you want. In the example I’m using, this is abundance.  Yours might be an improved relationship, greater health, a successful business, wholeness, making a living with your talent.

2.    Why you want it or the service you’ll provide. The example circumvents the belief that when some win others lose and focuses on win-win.  Your motives can be personal or broad.  If your own peace of mind is more important to you than world peace, focus on your own peace of mind.

3.    The emotion(s) you’ll use to create what you want.  In the example, the emotions are delight, gratitude and love.  Yours might be peace, enthusiasm, vigor, or anything from Partner or Creator mode.

By understanding these parts, you can sit with your intention without using any words at all:  imagine what you want, evoke the creative emotions, feel it as a done deal.   It’s impossible to know when or in what manner your intention will manifest, so relax and observe.

I provide one-on-one coaching in Personal Power and Manifestation.  Please write to me at kathy@kathyjacobson.com

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Receiving

Sunday, January 30th, 2011

Imagine it’s your birthday, and someone hands you a gift. Do you reach out and take it or let it fall to the floor?  Do you unwrap it or set it aside?  Do you smile and say thank you or ignore the giver?

Clearly, you cannot “get” what you don’t receive.

Just as you won’t get the present someone hands to you if you refuse to open your hands and take it, you have received  – by thought, action or emotion  – every single thing that comprises your life. Starting with life itself.

Let’s define receiving as allowing the possibility of. Before you can “get” something, you allow it to be possible. Probably subconsciously. Almost certainly the acceptance occurs in your emotional patterns before it ever enters your thought processes; nevertheless, at some level you agree it’s possible.

At some point, you allowed the possibility of your current state of health, your current level of abundance, your current relationships, your home, your work, your recreation, your beliefs, your attitudes. Perhaps you didn’t exactly welcome these things, but you received them.

Receiving and Not Receiving

At the same time, you have not received worse health, greater scarcity, relationships with more violence, or death (yet). However, neither have you quite opened up the possibility of better health, a higher income, stronger relationships, a different home, some other forms of work and play, a different belief system, or other attitudes. Perhaps you want something different from what you have, perhaps you even strive for it. However, until you are able to receive whatever you long for, it will continue to elude you.

Many of the exercises I’ve presented in past blog entries are geared toward opening up your willingness and ability to receive what you want. Right from the beginning, the focus has been on shifting your emotional energy from Victim or Interpreter modes – which limit and restrict possibilities – into higher levels of power.  See The Power of Emotion.

Notice the difference in what you get/accept/receive when you make that shift. For instance, here are typical results of Interpreter mode:

  • If you exist in frustration over your daughter’s nose ring, you basically tell the universe you’re willing to receive conflict, and you “get” struggle with your daughter.
  • If you indulge in hostility with your neighbor over his dog, you’re willing to accept combative emotions, and you may “get” loneliness or illness.
  • If you desire one thing (such as your career) to the exclusion of something else (such as your family or your health), you are willing to accept the tradeoffs. You may “get” what you strive for; you will certainly not “get” whatever you sacrificed.

Now here are some typical results of Partner mode:

  • If you appreciate your daughter’s challenging and creative personality, you become cooperative with her in developing her talents and expanding her personal power. She may become one of your closest, best friends.
  • If you extend friendship to both your neighbor and his dog, you express a willingness for community and sharing, and you may “get” a stronger, more cohesive neighborhood.
  • If you desire wholeness, to live your wisdom and power in all aspects of your life, you discover no tradeoffs are necessary. You allow the possibility of a fabulously successful career and a strong, loving family.

To inventory what you’re willing to receive, look at what you have. Conversely, if you don’t have it, you haven’t opened your hands to receive. The not-receiving may be an inability to accept the possibility. Or it may be an unwillingness to be in one-ness with what you want.

If you haven’t been mindful of this cause-and-effect of your life, you probably see what is as merely the facts of life rather than choices you can make or unmake.

Now that you’ve worked with intention and choice for a while, truly welcoming the result you want may be the final step.

Receiving Actively

Receiving is not passive. There are action steps involved. Imagine the birthday present again:  Hold out your hands. Take hold of the gift. Say thank you – for the thoughtfulness, if nothing else. Unwrap it. Show your delight. Say thank you again. And then, if the present is something you truly want, incorporate it into your life. Using the gift will be the true gratitude.

Let’s look at this act of receiving as it applies to manifestation. Take a moment to review the intention you’re working with:

  • You identified what you want.
  • You clarified it in terms of value, motivation and cost.
  • You purified it by identifying your fears, doubts and false beliefs.
  • You pacified your obstacles.
  • You amplified it by expanding your possibilities.

Now it’s time to satisfy the intention itself. It’s time to receive.

Hold out your hands. Welcome what you’ve asked for. Your part is finished.

(Well, okay, maybe your part isn’t quite finished. Maybe you’re still producing your product – gaining the skills, taking classes, putting your business plan together, writing the book. Or maybe you’re still indulging in some of those doubts and false beliefs.)

Once you receive a gift, any action involved shifts from the giver to you. Until that moment, the giver chose, planned, prepared, assembled, wrapped, and presented. After that moment, you hold, recognize, appreciate, use, display, honor. Or ignore. Before the exchange, the giver “owned” the present – and all the choices regarding it. After the exchange, you own it – and you own all the choices regarding it.

Shift the Direction

With manifestation, the process flows in the other direction. Before you receive, all the choices belong to you. All necessary action is yours to take. You “own” your intention. In order to receive the results of your intention, however, you must release your ownership and present the intention – like a gift – to the infinite. (Think of the infinite in terms of what’s most comfortable for you:  God, The Source, Cosmic Consciousness, The Universe, The Absolute, The Force.)  The moment the gift of your intention “changes hands,” the moment you surrender control, the infinite will act. On the cosmic level, this is when the real action begins.

Actually, I doubt this transaction takes place in a flash. I suspect we progress through this shift in awareness the entire time we’re working (or playing) our way through the parts of the process that belong to us.

Working with Emotional Energy

The most important key to manifestation (to creating, building, attracting, etc.) is your emotional involvement. Anything you are involved with at a Victim or Interpreter level feels difficult, challenging, stressful, even impossible. Only as the Observer can you connect with the infinite in a mindful way. Perhaps you’ve already discovered the difference in your results when you shift into the higher levels of emotional involvement. Let’s look at these modes of power from a different angle to get a better idea of their impact on receiving – and of your relationship to the infinite.

First, turn the diamond on it’s side and restructure it into a butterfly shape, so it’s narrowest in the middle and widest at the ends. The original diamond shape represents possibilities. Victim mode is narrow because few possibilities exist. Observer mode is widest because the infinite expanse of possibilities opens up in this mode. The diamond then narrows again as you chisel your way from possibilities to probabilities, and from probabilities to inevitabilities.

The butterfly shape represents emotional results. At the widest part of the wings, both Victim and Creator modes are so intense, they require no action on your part to generate results. None. No action required.

Recall some situation in which you were in Victim mode. Your emotions were everything; your actions were futile. No matter what you did, you couldn’t win. You couldn’t protest loudly enough. You couldn’t fight hard enough. None of your arguments won any points. As long as you let Victim-level emotions have the power, you were helpless. And miserable.

At the other end of the scale, Creator mode emotions are equally powerful, and no action on your part is required for you to enjoin with the infinite in oneness. Be love, joy, enthusiasm, delight, peace, eagerness, etc. and your infinite consciousness unites with the universe to create your best good.

Moving inward from Victim to Interpreter, and from Creator to Partner, the dynamic changes. The emotions may be every bit as strong, but the results of those emotions become narrower.

In these modes,  actions play a role as essential as emotions, and of course thoughts jump into the mix – in the form of beliefs, attitudes, ideas, judgments, assumptions, etc. It’s often impossible to identify which comes first. Perhaps events incite emotions, perhaps beliefs inspire you to action, perhaps feelings energize assumptions or ideas. It all jumbles together, and if emotions are laden with judgment, struggle ensues. If emotions are filled with partnership, cooperation expands.

In both Interpreter mode and Partner mode, you generate the emotion. And you receive the resulting struggle or support.

At the center of the model, in Observer mode, you neither generate nor receive. You simply are. You reside in a place of calm, calm mind, calm body and calm heart. You can relax, investigate, admire, explore, bask, hope, forgive, soothe, and accept. Compared to the tension and stress of Interpreter mode, Observer mode feels like a blessing, like a vacation, like an amazingly powerful place.

And it is powerful. When you review the list of representative Observer emotions, you can feel the release from struggle, the freedom from stress, the ease of being. It’s a lovely resting place and many people reside in the contentment of this mode for the better part of their lives.

Becoming A Receiver

No one lives in Observer mode 100% of the time. Consider those times and situations in your life when you are energized, happy, loving, companionable, fond, pleased, trusting, confident. At those times you have shifted into Partner or Creater mode. If you have decided something is currently missing from your life and you want to add it in, use Partner mode emotions to enlist the cooperation of friends, family, mentors, co-workers, your boss – or the universe.

When you are fully and unconditionally ready to receive, then you move into Creator mode. Then you do, you have, you are.

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Expand Your Possibilities

Monday, January 3rd, 2011

As you will recall from the Diamond of Mastery diagram, Observer mode spans the waistline of the diamond, where it’s widest, where the possibilities are broadest.  This wealth of possibilities is the most important aspect of Observer mode.  Observer mode emotions produce calm, and only in calmness do possibilities become visible.

In this infinite universe, an infinite array of possibilities always exists.  (Imagine the wide part of the diamond as greater than your arm span rather than narrower than the paper.)  When you look around objectively you can observe myriad results:  people in all states of physical well-being, from deathly ill to vibrantly healthy; people in all states of abundance, from abject poverty to wealth in the mega-billions; people in all states of mental well-being, from despair to bliss; people in all states of service, from saving lives to rejecting others.  Whatever you want, you’ll find examples of people at both ends of the spectrum and everything in between.

Of course, someone caught in Victim mode – at the bottom tip of the diamond – sees no options, no alternatives, only more of the same.  Someone who has advanced to Interpreter mode can see a much wider range of options, but those options will all be cloaked in difficulty because Interpreter mode emotions produce struggle.

The move from Interpreter mode into Observer mode is like stepping from darkness into light.  Suddenly you have greater depth perception, details are clearer, peripheral vision expands, colors are sharper.  Suddenly you see a greatly expanded range of possibilities.

The key to this change is calm. Calmness of thought, calmness of emotion, calmness of action.  I like to think of this as the triumvirate of mind, heart and body.  These three aspects of self work together to produce results.  When they are unified, they generate whatever they are aligned with; when they are in conflict, they generate chaos.

Because thoughts, emotions and actions are so connected and interdependent, it’s possible to begin with any one of them to achieve calm.  In other posts, I’ve focused almost entirely on emotions, so let’s start there.

Calm Your Emotions

You can use any of the techniques I’ve suggested before to calm your emotions.  Here are four more:

  • Smile.  Using MRI, researchers have discovered that turning up the corners of the mouth changes the way the synapses in the brain fire.  Just by smiling, you move your brain activity to a happier location of the brain.
  • See beauty.  Notice something you believe to be beautiful and savor it.  Seeing beauty is like seeing truth, except on the emotional level.  Enjoying the beautiful will ease your heart away from any agitation and cool heated emotions.
  • Be silly.  Stick out your tongue, wiggle your butt, dance a jig, cross your eyes – let down your defenses.  To be silly for even a few moments will helps you transcend any tension-causing rules that bind you to beliefs and behaviors that may not be true for you.
  • Evoke a neutral emotion.  Basically, this is letting go of judgment and becoming the observer.  That transition moves you from stress to serenity

When you calm your heart, you also calm your body and your mind.

Calm Your Body

Releasing stress and tension from your body is often the preferred starting place, probably because physical tension is so easy to identify.  Chances are, if you took a quick inventory of your body right now you’d find tension somewhere; and chances are equally high your mind immediately comes up with a relaxation technique:  get a massage, exercise, practice yoga, have an acupuncture treatment, take an aspirin, stretch, go for a walk, meditate.  These are all effective methods for tension relief.  Here are additional ways to quiet your body.

  • Breathe deeply.  Inhale slowly into your diaphragm, paying attention to the air all the way in and all the way out.  Be with your body.  Repeat 4-6 times.  The body relaxes with such regulated and increased oxygenation.
  • Open your senses.  Pay attention to what you can hear, what you can see, what you can smell, what you can taste, and/or what you can feel.  Your senses are your access to the world, and compared to your own stress, the world is very stable.
  • Be in nature.  Go outside and be open to temperature, weather, plants, animals, and your body’s responses.  Nature is generous, inspiring, settling and calming.
  • Expand your body from within.  Become tall, lengthen your neck, broaden your shoulders, expand your rib cage, lengthen your arms and legs, stretch your skin.  When your body is tight, it hoards tense emotions; when your body is expanded, it welcomes generous emotions.

When you calm your body, you also calm your heart and your mind.

Calm Your Mind

Buddhism refers to mental anxiety as “monkey mind.”  Sometimes when the mind is particularly agitated, you may reach calm fastest through the body or the emotions.  However, the following suggestions can help you calm your mind first.

  • Count your blessings.  Think of five things you’re thankful for and savor them.  Especially be mindful to the blessings and advantages you enjoy that you didn’t earn.  Appreciation of what’s good switches the mind off something you might be judging negatively.
  • Laugh out loud.  Chuckle, giggle, tee-hee.  Generate it from your belly, your chest, your throat, your nose, your toes.  Just find some form of laughter inside of you and let it come out your mouth.  Laughter is a very effective medicine.
  • See truth.  Think of something you know to be true.  Even small truths work well here:  The sun is shining (or it’s raining); I love my dog (or my child, or my spouse), I am well-fed (or hungry), I like ice cream (or swimming, or a good book, or martinis).  Truth will help you stop any story your mind might be spinning.
  • Be present.  Take note of whatever you are doing.  If you are eating, savor every bite; if you are working, focus on the task; if you are walking, observe the roll of your feet, the resilience of the ground, the sounds and textures of the environment.  Focus your mind on what is, and you will find ease from whatever story your brain is making up.

When you calm your mind, you also calm your heart and your body.

Calm = Possibilities

Okay, now that you’re calm, let’s explore what’s possible.

At the center top of a piece of paper, briefly identify something you want to create.  I’ve used the following example in previous blogs:

With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance.

Immediately below your intention, write the first result that comes to mind.  Perhaps the first result of financial abundance would be, I’m totally out of debt. Below that, imagine two new possibilities that would derive from the first, moving in two different directions:  One way:  I have money to spare. The other way:  I have money to share. Now let each of those options move in two more directions, so you have branched into four further possibilities:  1) My business is prospering beyond by wildest dreams. 2) Money comes when I need it. 3) My prosperity prospers others. 4) I help those I love to my heart’s content.

From here, let the ideas come from wherever they will, even if they don’t logically progress from earlier ideas.  Let your intuition guide you.  Give you imagination free rein.  Expand your possibilities in one direction today, and expand them in another direction tomorrow.  No buts.  No boundaries.  No rules.  No limitations.

Keep ‘em Coming

Just as there is an infinite expanse of possibilities out there waiting to be noticed, you have an infinite creative potential for conceiving, receiving, exploring, and discovering.  Your subconscious mind loves to come up with ideas.  Unfortunately, most people find it easier to shut down their creativity than encourage it.  Perhaps you’ve developed the habit of saying, “Whoa!”  “Not now!”  “Not yet!”  No way!”  “Can’t do it.”  Here’s a good way to reverse that practice.

Keep a notebook called “My Idea Log.”  Write your Intention Statement at the top of one of the pages.  (Perhaps you are working with many intentions, so each one will have a page – or a section – in your notebook.)  Whenever you have an idea related to your intention, write it in the log.  This will be a running brainstorming session, and the same rules apply:  Everything gets written down.  No judging.  No discussion.  No cross talk.  No sorting or organizing.  Allow repetition.  Encourage the far-out.  Write down everything that comes to mind.

Perhaps most of the things you write down will be about how, at least at first.  Writing them in the Idea Log serves the following purposes:

1.    You signal your subconscious that you’re listening, and this encourages more and more ideas.

2.    By noting your how ideas on paper, yet staying intentionally focused on the what, you strengthen your partnership with the universe.  In essences you affirm your understanding that what is up to you, and you trust the universe to handle how.

3.    When it comes time for you to take action, you’ll have an amazing source of ideas already at hand.

Remember, the possibilities are without end.  The calmer you are, the more vividly you will see an ever-expanding range of options – most of which are already sitting right under your nose.

For personal one-on-one coaching, please contact me email me: kathy@kathyjacobson.com


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Pacifying Your Objections

Sunday, December 19th, 2010

When I first realized the power of emotions, I thought of them as prayers.  (Or wishes, or desires, or intentions, or choices.)  I saw happiness as a prayer for more happiness, and misery as a prayer for more misery.  Then I began to also see thoughts as prayers and actions as prayers.  For the past fifteen years, my observations have affirmed and expanded that original idea, and I have come to see the power of combining these three energies into a congruent whole

Congruence Produces Results

When thoughts, actions and emotions are joined toward something, that something results.  This is true whether the result is something you want or something you don’t want.

For most people, most of the time, results occur more by accident than by intention.  For instance, you probably have no intention to catch the cold bug that happens to be going around.  But if you have the thought/belief that illnesses are passed by germs, the emotion/acceptance that you’re vulnerable, and an action/contact with those germs, you’ll be congruent about catching cold.  You can easily catch it by accident.

The recognition of congruence is easy when what you have is what you like, enjoy, delight in, appreciate, love, or are at peace with.  It’s much more difficult to acknowledge a potential alignment with the troubling aspects of life – conflicts, illnesses, hardships, frustrations, lacks, etc.

When you look at what you don’t like in your life, perhaps you experience dislike, frustration, impatience, grief, fear, anger, or some other emotions from Victim or Interpreter mode.  It’s natural to wonder how you can possibly be aligned with something you so passionately don’t want.  It isn’t necessary to dissect or analyze the experiences of your past for the answer.  Simply look at your results and the energy that produces those results.  Are you suffering?  The energy of Victim mode emotions produces suffering.  Are you struggling?  The energy of Interpreter mode emotions produces struggle.

Remember, all emotions have power.  All thoughts have power.  And all actions have power.  Everything in your life indicates these three powers are pulling together in the same direction – or in conflict with each other.  If you change any one of the three, you will get a different result.

Today we’re going to do a little time traveling in order to de-energize what you don’t want – and energize what you do want.

In my previous blog (Becoming Congruent), I suggested a “But” exercise.  From that exercise, you’ll notice past experiences tend to be at the heart of many of your buts. Not all, of course.  Some will have to do with your current circumstances, and a few will reach into the future.  Take a moment to review your list and mark which is which.  Mark those rooted in the past with P, those centered in the present with C (for Current), and those projecting into the future with F.

To illustrate, here’s the sample intention I used last week.  I labeled long-held beliefs with P because such beliefs tend to have such deep roots into the past.

With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance, but:

  • I’m stuck in a job that barely pays the bills. (C)
  • Every time I try to feel abundance my stomach tightens up. (C)
  • The economy’s so bad, where would any new money come from? (F)
  • I’m farther in the hole than I’ve ever been before. (C)
  • Money is the root of all evil. (P)
  • The rich only get that way on the backs of the poor. (P)
  • I have to make sure everyone else is okay first. (P)

Change the Past

In science fiction, one of the primary challenges of time travel is to not interfere with history.  One little change in the past could completely obliterate the present as you know it.  For instance, what would happen to you if one set of your great-great grandparents didn’t conceive your great grandparent?  Or what would your childhood have been like if your father did different work?  Or what would your current situation be if you’d gone to a different school?

Look at your but list and choose one of those you marked with a P.  What if one little thing had been different in the past?  Would that but have the same power?

To change the past in a positive way, you will travel back in time and “rewrite” the event that originated the but, or influenced it, or reinforced it.  While there may be no mechanism to travel through time physically, metaphysically you can revisit your past and powerfully re-create your current reality.

Here’s one of the buts from the above list:  But I have to make sure everyone else is okay first.

Beliefs such as this may have resulted from a single event, but more likely they take shape through repetition.  The seed may have been planted when you were forced to share your toys, nurtured at functions (including your own birthday parties) where guests were served first, cultivated when you were instructed to watch out for your little brothers and sisters, etc. until you came to believe other people’s needs take precedence over your own.

Using the but you selected from your own list, travel back in time to a situation from the past that reinforced your belief.  It doesn’t matter if the situation actually happened or is simply representative.  It does matter that you can re-experience the feelings of the situation.  Also, the more meditative and experiential you can become, the better.  You’ll be moving through the situation emotionally, and you’ll control the clock so you can stop the action at any time.

Begin by letting your memory travel back to the situation you have in mind.  Imagine yourself at the beginning of the scene, when your emotions were in the neutral-to-happy range.  Say you’re happily playing by yourself with your toys when another child arrives.  Or you’ve just finished blowing out the candles on your cake and it’s time to serve it to your guests.  Or you’ve been left in charge of your cute little sister.

Now let the scene unfold until the moment when your needs or wants get pushed into the back seat.  Stop the clock.  Recognize this a choice point for you.

Of course, back in the past you couldn’t know you had a choice.  You were young, you were still forming your world view, you were vulnerable.  You couldn’t orchestrate the situation to please yourself.  (Violators will be prosecuted!)  Yet you felt something.

Start the clock and move through the scene just long enough to recognize what you felt then:  angry, frustrated, guilty, belittled, miserable, resentful, helpless, bitter, defensive, ashamed?  Stop the clock again.

With the clock stopped, acknowledge your emotion as one from Victim or Interpreter mode.  From your current wisdom you know Victim mode emotions result in pain and suffering; Interpreter mode emotions result in struggle.  The emotion you experienced then has been affecting your life ever since.  So, since you’re traveling back in time, now’s your chance to change the past.  And since you’ve stopped the clock and can pause it for as long as you want, take the time to decide how you would like to react instead.  Emotions from Observer mode will neutralize the old belief, Partner emotions will generate new opportunities, and Creator emotions will produce best good.

When you know the emotion you want to experience instead, choose it.  Generate it within you.  Feel it.  Let this be the mode you operate from.  Now start the clock again.

As you let the scene continue, the other players will try to follow the old script.  But when you use your chosen emotion to motivate new dialogue and responses, they will have to follow your lead and adapt to your new choices.  Pay attention to what happens within yourself as the scene plays out.  Notice any shifts that occur.

In science fiction, any changes to the past usually occur within the characters, with no permanent changes to history.  (Except they may have fixed something that had broken.)  When the characters return to their present, it’s often to the present they knew before, but they themselves have gained a measure of enlightenment.  In your reality, you will probably experience a similar inner transformation, and that inner transformation will impact your current circumstances.  You will have changed the past in one small way, and that change will also change the present.

Choose the Present

For this technique, return to your but list and select an item you identified with an C for Current:  But I’m farther in the hole than I’ve ever been before. Compared to changing the past, choosing the present is fairly straightforward, although it requires the same meditative and experiential attention.

  1. Identify the emotion(s) most entangled with this very present but.  For instance, my example may generate insecurity.  (Ah, I’m feeling insecure.)
  2. Recognize the creative power of the emotion you’ve been experiencing.  (Insecurity about money makes me feel sick to my stomach.)
  3. Acknowledge your power to choose your emotions.  (Oh my, I’ve been choosing to feel insecure.)
  4. Decide what you’d rather feel, what would be an antidote for insecurity.  (Hope.  I want to feel hopeful.)
  5. Relax into what you want to feel instead.  This step requires conscious willingness to replace the old habitual emotion with the new intentional emotions.
  6. Choose to operate from that new space.

When you replace insecurity with hope you move from Interpreter mode to Observer mode, and you will experience calm.  If you choose a Partner mode emotion, such as gratitude or eagerness or tranquility, new and unexpected opportunities will open up for you.  If you choose a Creator emotion such as delight or peace or optimism, your best good will unfold.

Connect with the Future.

You already travel into the future to create the present.  When your time machine is powered by Partner or Creator emotions, your visits empower your congruence with all that you enjoy and appreciate in your life.  When your time machine is powered by Victim or Interpreter emotions, you strengthen your congruence with those things you passionately dislike.

This technique will help you become more intentional about using the future to become more congruent with what you do want.

Most likely, when you look at the but statements you’ve labeled with an (F) for Future, you’ll find fear or worry.  In my example:  The economy’s so bad, where would any new money come from? Embedded in this are the Interpreter emotions of self-doubt, trepidation, worry, anxiety, and also a bit of helplessness from the anger and woe of Victim.

Such emotions make the future look dark and dismal, and if you draw such fear from the future into the present, the present becomes dark and dismal.  Even if today is bright and sunny and you have money in the bank and work scheduled on the books, you may find it impossible to enjoy any security in the now.  In other words, you’re using the future to create the present.

Imagine the time continuum between the present and the future as an assembly line belt.  The belt runs continuously, forward from you into the future and from the future back to you.  The now-emotion you put on the belt scrolls into the future, and the future scrolls the result back to you now.  Because this is a continuously running loop, the emotion you put on the belt determines your future and your present.

To try this, select one of your (F) but statements:  The economy’s so bad, where would any new money come from?

Review your intention statement.  Perhaps you’ve already selected an emotion or two to energize this intention:  With delight and gratitude I enjoy unrestrained financial abundance.

Generate the emotions of delight and gratitude within you.  Let the energy of them circulate through your body. Feel them.  Be them.  Let them expand within you and radiate from you.  Put them on the conveyor belt and send them into the future.

Now, receive what the future puts on the conveyor belt and returns to you.

Congruence is Power

There is no one way to become congruent, to align with what you want.  Sometimes it’s a process of dismantling or deconstructing.  Sometimes it requires release or surrender.  Sometimes all you have to do is become willing and welcoming.  Sometimes it involves practice or assembly.  Regardless of the ways or means of becoming aligned, when your thoughts, actions and emotions form a single, congruent prayer in unity with what you want, what you want must result.  And the results are often immediate.  When those three aspects of your power click together into a congruent whole, the miracle happens.  (The final result may take a little time.  You probably won’t loose those 20 pounds instantly.)

If the miracle hasn’t happened yet, stay mindful of your congruence.

For one-on-one coaching to create a new reality, please email me directly:  kathy@kathyjacobson.com

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